Dr Pooky Knightsmith

Keynote Speaker, Author & Advisor

January 12, 2023

GUIDE | Getting to Why – Ideas for Asking and Listening

Unless we can understand why a child is e.g. self-harming, it’s very unlikely we’ll succeed in supporting them to sustainably change this behaviour.  Getting to the ‘why’ can be challenging as children often don’t know what’s driving their behaviour.  That’s where this guide comes in.

In this guide, I’ve shared ideas for getting to why through conversations with your child. If helpful, in future guides, I can explore other methods like journalling, play, music or art.

Cherry-pick the ideas that you think might work for you and give them a go. You can always revisit others later if you need to.

Good luck!


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